Mission to Re-Position

In a rut? That’s normal. By nature the human brain is designed to find the simplest and easiest way get things done. Once we find a position, time and technique that works – we tend to stick to it. But eventually we all get bored. But no worries, I have a cure!

Shake it up! Explore new positions. Keep in mind that any really good position has got to comfortable for your bodies, so you can maintain it. Look at the furniture in your home. Lean over the soft armrest of your over-stuffed love seat. A carpeted staircase can help eliminate any height differences that may get in your way. Keep a pile of pillows to tuck under knees, her belly or his back. Look around your home and you will find a wealth of possibilities and loads of soft spots where you can catch your partner by surprise! Stash lube and other sex supplies in your get-it-on locations. And for extra fun, don’t tell your partner about your new mission to re-position! Spontaneity is an absolute aphrodisiac. Leave ‘em wondering, “Who is this spontaneous, creative sexual beauty!?!”

For more creative ideas check out my Ancient Chinese Sexual Positions Card Deck (let your lover pick a card!), 101 Advanced Sex Positions For Lovers DVD (watch it together!) or stock your library with the Complete Manual of Sexual Positions for easy reference. www.tristatepleasure.com

And of course, you know I am a Pleasure Expert! If you need any inspiration, just give me call!

The Best Kegel Exerciser We Carry: Juno Kegel Exerciser

*Ducky Doolittle Recommended*
Ducky says: "Lucite with metal balls. Excellent way to gain muscle strength fast. Insert the large end first and she's lifting the smaller weight. Insert the small end first and she is lifting the larger, heavier weight. She can put it in her vagina, use a vibe on her clit and she's working out - just by masturbating. The large end is also a nice G spotter. This toys is full of wonderful possibilities in health and orgasms."



The single most important exercise for a woman's sexual health is Kegel exercises.
Kegel exercises help to strengthen your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle. This muscle forms a "figure-eight" outlining the vaginal and anal opening. This easy, and usually pleasurable routine, boasts a whole host of benefits.

The Benefits

* Orgasms become stronger for men and women.

* There is more control over sensation during intercourse.

* It's easier to reach orgasm; you feel more when you need to, and less when you want. More control over the sexual experience, a feeling of power.

* Childbirth can be easier, more controlled, leading to fewer complications.

* The vagina heals more quickly from the effects of childbirth.

* Partner feels more during intercourse - can pull and squeeze penis with vaginal walls.

* Prevent/stop incontinence/prolapsed uterus.

* Men can have harder erections. Men can have harder erections.· Men can have harder erections.

How do I find them? Flex your muscles:

Sit on the toilet with your legs parted slightly.

Allow yourself to start the flow of urine.

Stop the flow - Remember that feeling.

Commit yourself: Now that you know what it feels like to flex your PC muscle:

Find a time each day to practice (i.e. driving to work, on the bus, in the shower, watching TV, at a boring meeting). No one will ever know.

Commit to this time each day.

Do your reps: Basic:

Get comfy, breathe slowly.

Squeeze and hold for 10 seconds.

Relax for 10 seconds.

Repeat 2 more times.

Shake it up
Alternative A: Advanced

Squeeze lightly - hold 5 seconds

Squeeze stronger - hold 5 seconds

Squeeze really tight - hold 5 seconds

Reverse Relax Do this 10 times

Take a break Repeat 2 more times.

Alternative B:

Work all of the muscles - Flutter

Squeeze for one second

Rest for one second

Repeat 10 times 2 times a day

Tips:

* Don't do Kegels while urinating - just use urination to understand the feeling of flexing the PC.

* Put a finger in vagina and clench, you can feel the muscles working.

* Men can practice by putting a towel over their penis when they have an erection and then attempting to move their penis up and down. They can train up by adding weight just by wetting the towel more each time.

* There is no over night success - it takes dedication. Never use your back, anal, stomach, or buttock muscles.

Something For Him

Something For Him

Courtesy of our sex expert and educator, Ducky Doolittle - Check out her For Your Pleasure Blog

Sleeves make a perfect gift if you are going out of town and have to leave your guy home alone. Along with a little bottle of lube it says, “Go for it! Find some pleasure in that hot body of yours!” Sleeves can be a super fun way to give him that blowjob experience and still make out with him at the same time. (Fun!) And sleeves can simply be a safe way to experience a new sensation when you are looking to shake up your sex play. Sleeves rule!

• Use lube to amplify the slipperiness.
• Inside, depending upon which one you buy, you’ll find nubbies, ribs or smoothness. All of them are built to stretch but provide a certain tightness that is different from penatrating a partner, but is sure to please.
• The outside of your sleeve can have one of many shapes. It could be realistic like the lips of a woman's labia, or the kissy lips of a face, or tight anal sphincter. Your sleeve could be in the shape of a flower or a simple tube. Some people will want a realistic shape while others will want something more abstract to pop their penis into. And some even come with a vibrator attached. It really is just about person preference.
• If you have kids (or snoopy in laws) in your house you may want something less realistic in your nightstand. Then if someone finds it you can say swear it’s just one of those Water Wiggles toys. You know, the ones we all had as kids! The one’s we all obsessively stuck our fingers in until we were old enough to buy an actual sleeve!

Anyway, I encourage you to explore the world of sleeves. When shopping for your sleeve, look for length, tightness, inner texture, and ask how to clean each sleeve. (The easier it is to clean, the better, as you will use it more often.) Your For Your Pleasure rep is sure to have samples available for you to see and hold in your hand. It’s always best to check out what they have in stock, because you never know what you are buying unless you can see it (out of it’s package) in advance. The one pictured here is called Parting Lips. It is 4.5 inches deep and it’s one of For Your Pleasure’s July Hostess Specials. One of the many perks of hosting a party is free stuff and deep discounts. So get your friends together, host a party and get toys!

Spring belongs to the birds and the bees!

I am soooo ready to shed my winter wear! So I have to ask, what are you doing to getting ready for spring? I say get a jump on your skin care. A light spritz of BODY DEW MIST after your shower will bring a glow to your skin. Some BODY SHIMMER will deliver summer sun kissed legs. COOCHY AFTER SHAVE MIST will keep your skin protected post-blade or wax. And a little dry SILKY BODY MIST will make your skin irresistible to the one you love! Now is the time to get a jump on your skin care rituals. If you are interested in exploring more of my self-care products, give me a call!

To see and buy these products online, go to my shopping website!

Ducky Doolittle - Something to shout about!!!

I must give props where props are DUE!!! Ducky Doolittle, our resident sex adviser and educator, has been such a warm and helpful resource for me. I'm sure for many IBA's as well. We are so fortunate to have her all to ourself. heehe. She regularly posts on our message board, she does Sex Ed chats and gives out 1-on-1 coaching calls as gifts/prizes!!

Check out her blog HERE! She does videos about certain products/issues and asks her readers intriguing questions. And I can't wait to see her again, either at a local NYC meeting or at Las Vegas convention this summer!

Thank you Ducky for everything you do and have done for us!!!

If you haven't checked out her book, Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered, you BETTER! She tells it like it is and gets you motivated to try new and fun things. Have a question of a sexual nature? You'll find the answer in her book.

You can buy the book at my shopping website.

Toothpick Holder Looks a Little Odd!

This is a vintage toothpick holder. I suppose it was made before cyberskin and today's technologies. Reminds me of our "Lil Love Plug"!

Getting LUCKY on St. Patrick's Day!

St. Patrick’s Day is upon on and it has me thinking about luck. So often we attribute the good things in life to luck but the truth is that good things most often come when we plan for them. So I have to ask you, how do you plan to get lucky? Bond with your love? Inspire more sexual generosity in your bedroom? The HUMM DOUBLE DINGER may be just the thing! It’s ring that he wears (you know where!) with two little vibrating bullets attached. He gets the pleasure of the ring and you both feel the vibrations! It’s an attachment to what he’s already got and undoubtedly one of the best equal-opportunity toys on the market! And it’s just one of my many hostess specials for March. If you are curious for more details, to see my full March Hostess Specials packages and/or to discuss planning your streak of luck, come visit my website. www.tristatepleasure.com