NEWS: Exploring The Meaning Of Moaning

By DANIELA ALTIMARI |COURANT STAFF WRITER

November 30, 2007

There are moans of satisfaction and moans of pain. There are porn-star moans, over-the-top- wake-up-the-neighbors moans and perhaps the most famous moan of all — the breathy, fake orgasm moan in "When Harry Met Sally."

Now there's a student group at Wesleyan looking to reclaim the moan. Called the Monthly Moaners, their mission is "To take a critical look at how we understand moaning and create a safe, non-voyeuristic space in which to explore our own vocalization."

OK, get the snickers out of the way now. As described by Emily House, the group's leader, this is a serious endeavor.

House, a soft-spoken junior from the Albany area who is majoring in anthropology and feminist gender studies, got the idea after participating in the moaning segment of a campus production of Eve Ensler's "The Vagina Monologues."

"People said 'You were so brave to do that,'" House recalled during a recent interview at a Middletown coffee shop . "I thought it was fun."

She held her first "Intro to Moaning" workshop at last winter's expo on sexual health — the one that also featured sessions on bondage and a 7-foot-tall fabric vulva.According to House, this is about more than sex — though, of course, sex is part of it. "Moaning is inherently sexual," she said. "But can you divorce moaning from sexuality?"

Yes, says one participant, who put it this way in an anonymous post on wesleying, a student blog: "The moans themselves have been both sexual moans, but also playing around with other types of moaning. My personal favorite was the moaning 'like you have a secret you really want to tell someone but know you shouldn't' moan."

The workshops typically begin with a discussion about expectations. House said she wants to make sure participants feel comfortable expressing themselves, which is also why she hands out blindfolds.

"It's a very personal thing," she explained. "Moaning is so stigmatized. … This is a vulnerable area, and watching other people would take you out of yourself."

Each workshop includes a frank conversation about the social and political meaning of moaning. For instance, what's an authentic moan? Is moaning like a porn star for the benefit of a partner OK? What's the difference between a moan and a primal scream?

And can men moan?

"Men don't feel that freedom," House said. "Guys think they're not supposed to moan." But she added, several men have attended the workshops and have told her the experience was liberating.

Then it's on with the blindfolds. Like guided meditation, House urges the group to participate in vocal exercises and visualization techniques to them get into the moment. How does a hum feel? How does a yawn feel? How does delicious sound?

Afterward, there's a short debriefing, when participants sit in the circle and share their feelings.

Some of the comments, as related by House:

"This is a part of myself that I didn't know existed."

"The way I moan is a beautiful thing."

"My body's feeling good, and I don't care who hears me."

House said she usually notices something in the faces of the participants as they get up to leave. "They have this beautiful glowing sensation," she said. "They have just moaned out all their stress, and they have a very calm look."



Contact Daniela Altimari at altimari@courant.com.

Lesson on Ben-Wa Balls

Thank you Ducky for providing us with this valuable and enlightening lesson in Ben-Wa Balls! :)

You Know You're a Mom - #1

Yet another blog segment I'm starting. And I promise that I will continue these segments!!

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You know you're a Mom (of girls) when you are using a thong to tie your hairback because you can't find any hairbands anywhere and rubberbands hurt too much. :) There, I said it.

A Little Pick Me Up ~ For Your Relationship!

When you get home from work tonight, give your bedroom a sexy makeover! Take just 20 minutes to clear out the clutter. Make sure your bedroom is a peaceful place, free of excess books, magazine, nail clippers and junk. Put your clothes away, so the focus is your beautiful bed and not the chaos of day-to-day life. Put fresh sheets on the bed. Arrange some new lighting options, like a bedside lamp rather than overhead lighting. Put pillar candles in tall vases or jars so they can create ambiance and not be a fire hazard. And finally have your safer sex supplies, lube and toys in a clean container where they are easy to access and ready to use!

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NEWS: Woman has 200 Orgasms per day!!

WOW!! Can I have one? Heehe

Anything can set me off!

By Matthew Acton

SARAH Carmen, 24, says the Permanent Sexual Arousal Syndrome that she suffers from can cause her to have orgasm at any time of day.

She explained: "Anything can set me off. Even the hairdryers cause funny pulsations through my body.

"As a skin care specialist I have to use tools which vibrate a lot of the time for micro-dermabrasion and they sometimes set me off.

"I find if I'm nervous I'm less likely to get over-excited. So sometimes I try to psyche myself up and worry to control my orgasms.

"Some of my regular customers know my problem. But with new clients it's hard to explain.

"I have been in the middle of a treatment and it's happened and I've had to carry on.

"I was doing a bikini wax and you have to really concentrate and keep your hands very still, and mine go a bit wobbly when I orgasm.

"I had to pretend I had cramp in my foot and just stood there wriggling around on the spot and stifling my moans until it was over."

Sarah's friends think she is the luckiest girl ever, although her family think her behaviour is sometimes slightly odd.

She said: "The best way to describe how I am when I am with my family and I have one of my 'moments' is that I behave like Sheila from Shameless.

"I just get a bid giddy and yelp out and try to control myself. I've never sat down and explained it to my mum and dad, it's just too weird.

"They just think I get a bit hyperactive round them.

"My friends think it's great. I have more orgasms in one day than most of them will probably have in a year.

"They say to me that they feel lucky if their boyfriend makes them have one orgasm-some days I have one every ten minutes."

It has proved to be a problem for Sarah in some relationships.

She said: "I dated one guy who was very selfish and he was that way in the bedroom too. He'd just lie back and expect me to please him.

"He just figured that because I could climax without him even having to touch me, he didn't need to do anything to please me.

"I just thought that was rude and inconsiderate. It didn't last very long with him."

She has also had embarrassing moments in public. Going to noisy bars and clubs is out of the question as the vibrations send her wild.

"We have to find nice quiet bars," she explained. "I have more orgasms if I have a drink as it relaxes me so I tend to drink very little now.

"It can be a bit embarrassing if I'm tipsy and guys who don't know me talk to me, because I find it harder to hide.

"The most embarrassing thing that has happened was when I answered a market research questionnaire and had an orgasm in front of the researcher.

"She knew what was happening and looked at me like I was a weirdo. I tried to explain that I couldn't help it, but I was blushing so much I had to walk away."

Sarah has even been to a Sex Addicts' Anonymous meeting in despair over her sex drive.

She said: "At first when the problem started I just wanted to have sex all the time, I thought I was a sex addict.

"But when I looked around the room and heard the stories other people told, about how desperate they were for sex, I realised I wasn't like them.

"With me, it was a means of releasing my orgasm, but now I know I don't have to have sex to do that."

Sarah has looked into the condition and believes it may have been triggered by her taking anti-depressants.

She said: "I've found studies that say that taking anti-depressants and then stopping has an effect on the sexual organs. That is the only thing that explains what happens to me.

"But I've heard of other girls who have the same problem and it just appears out of the blue. I've spoken to my doctor about it but she wasn't a great deal of help but that's mainly because there's very little known about it and no one yet knows how to cure it."

Thanks to her understanding friends and colleagues, Sarah feels like she can now live with PSAS.

She said: "I'm lucky because people around me are very kind and appreciate that sometimes this is a problem for me and it can be embarrassing.

"I need to concentrate on something sad or worrying when I talk to people and I don't want to get carried away."

During our 40-minute interview, Sarah told us she had five orgasms.

Years of dealing with the problem means that sometimes she can hide it quite well.

Her voice goes high pitched and she will lose her train of thought and have to stop talking completely for a few seconds. She says disguises this by coughing when she is in awkward situations.

"But it's also nice to have so much excitement every day! It's strange because it came from nowhere and I guess it could go away just as quickly, so I'm making the most of it while it lasts!"

http://www.newsoftheworld.co.uk/0311_200_orgasms_extra.shtml

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