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Check it Out: Passion & Power: The Technology of an Orgasm

Review: 'Passion & Power' touts vibrators

Tamara Straus, Chronicle Staff Writer

Friday, February 22, 2008

Passion & Power: The Technology of Orgasm: Documentary. Directed by Emiko Omori and Wendy Slick. (Not rated. 74 minutes. At the Roxie in San Francisco and the Smith Rafael Film Center in San Rafael. For complete movie listings and show times, and to buy tickets for select theaters, go to sfgate.com/movies.)

Among the humorous highlights of "Passion & Power: The Technology of Orgasm," a documentary about the history of the vibrator, is Betty Dodson - the "masturbation movement godmother" - proclaiming, "Independent orgasms will lead to independent thoughts. Once a woman has given herself her own best orgasm, she's on a roll."

Although such assessments may seem overblown to the current generation of sex-positive women, this doc is a reminder that female sexual satisfaction is a fairly recent concept and one that remains taboo in the more conservative and religious areas of the country.

The movie starts with the tragicomic legal saga of Joanne Webb, a churchgoing Texas housewife who, in 2004, was busted for selling vibrators to two undercover cops. In Texas, up until this year, it has been a felony to sell sexual devices. Webb, a sales associate for Passion Parties, was just trying to make a few extra bucks for her family. Instead, she was summoned to jail. Within a year, her husband had a nervous breakdown and they were forced to declare bankruptcy. All because of some vibrators.

Filmmakers Emiko Omori and Wendy Slick's point is that even a generation after the sexual revolution the female orgasm is seen as a mystery, a threat and, in the most extreme cases, something to subjugate.

The bulk of their film is devoted to the groundbreaking research of Rachel P. Maines, whose 1999 book "The Technology of Orgasm: Hysteria, the Vibrator and Women's Sexual Satisfaction" charts how vibrators were used by 19th century doctors to massage women to orgasm as a treatment for hysteria, that hodgepodge of illnesses that included "reading French novels while tightly corseted."

At first the therapeutic technique was manual, then electronic, and eventually it left the doctor's office altogether when companies like Sears, Roebuck Co. and General Electric Co. began mass-producing a variety of home massagers that retailed for $5 to $15. But once they showed up in 1920s porn, the instruments went underground until they were rediscovered by feminists like Dodson, who held women's sexuality workshops in the 1970s, promoting the power of vibrators.

"Passion & Power" proceeds in the usual documentary fashion with a parade of talking heads interspersed with archival photos. Maines, who is shot in a musty Victorian parlor surrounded by a variety of antique vibrators, has a hard time reining in her academic jargon - she describes the vibrator of the 1880s as a "deskilling, capital labor substitution innovation" - but her findings are extraordinary.

However, it is Dodson, the New York sexologist, who is the true star of the movie. She describes with great poignancy and bravado how she was "dumber than s-" about her own sexuality until she began talking with women and men about female pleasure. Then she became a sex activist, holding workshops and writing books. "Sometimes on a Sunday afternoon I'd masturbate for three, four hours," Dodson says. The vibrator would get so hot, "I learned to hold it with a potholder."

Omori and Slick work hard to keep the laughs coming in their film, although there are too many images of volcanoes erupting, flowers blooming in slow motion and vulva-like jellyfish fluttering through the water to get across that, yes, women do reach orgasm - especially with vibrators.

"Passion & Power" may lay it on too thick with its You Go, Girl! message, but in the end it does bring to life a remarkably amusing and strange secret history.

-- Advisory: Sexual content.

E-mail Tamara Straus at tstraus@sfchronicle.com.

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Momma found the trailer!

What is an orgasm to YOU???

How do you describe an orgasm? What exactly is it?

I have learned that it has a lot to do with nerve endings, stimulation (obviously) and the pelvic floor muscles which spasm and contract throughout orgasm.

How would you describe the FEELING though????

DO tell....

NEWS: Woman has 200 Orgasms per day!!

WOW!! Can I have one? Heehe

Anything can set me off!

By Matthew Acton

SARAH Carmen, 24, says the Permanent Sexual Arousal Syndrome that she suffers from can cause her to have orgasm at any time of day.

She explained: "Anything can set me off. Even the hairdryers cause funny pulsations through my body.

"As a skin care specialist I have to use tools which vibrate a lot of the time for micro-dermabrasion and they sometimes set me off.

"I find if I'm nervous I'm less likely to get over-excited. So sometimes I try to psyche myself up and worry to control my orgasms.

"Some of my regular customers know my problem. But with new clients it's hard to explain.

"I have been in the middle of a treatment and it's happened and I've had to carry on.

"I was doing a bikini wax and you have to really concentrate and keep your hands very still, and mine go a bit wobbly when I orgasm.

"I had to pretend I had cramp in my foot and just stood there wriggling around on the spot and stifling my moans until it was over."

Sarah's friends think she is the luckiest girl ever, although her family think her behaviour is sometimes slightly odd.

She said: "The best way to describe how I am when I am with my family and I have one of my 'moments' is that I behave like Sheila from Shameless.

"I just get a bid giddy and yelp out and try to control myself. I've never sat down and explained it to my mum and dad, it's just too weird.

"They just think I get a bit hyperactive round them.

"My friends think it's great. I have more orgasms in one day than most of them will probably have in a year.

"They say to me that they feel lucky if their boyfriend makes them have one orgasm-some days I have one every ten minutes."

It has proved to be a problem for Sarah in some relationships.

She said: "I dated one guy who was very selfish and he was that way in the bedroom too. He'd just lie back and expect me to please him.

"He just figured that because I could climax without him even having to touch me, he didn't need to do anything to please me.

"I just thought that was rude and inconsiderate. It didn't last very long with him."

She has also had embarrassing moments in public. Going to noisy bars and clubs is out of the question as the vibrations send her wild.

"We have to find nice quiet bars," she explained. "I have more orgasms if I have a drink as it relaxes me so I tend to drink very little now.

"It can be a bit embarrassing if I'm tipsy and guys who don't know me talk to me, because I find it harder to hide.

"The most embarrassing thing that has happened was when I answered a market research questionnaire and had an orgasm in front of the researcher.

"She knew what was happening and looked at me like I was a weirdo. I tried to explain that I couldn't help it, but I was blushing so much I had to walk away."

Sarah has even been to a Sex Addicts' Anonymous meeting in despair over her sex drive.

She said: "At first when the problem started I just wanted to have sex all the time, I thought I was a sex addict.

"But when I looked around the room and heard the stories other people told, about how desperate they were for sex, I realised I wasn't like them.

"With me, it was a means of releasing my orgasm, but now I know I don't have to have sex to do that."

Sarah has looked into the condition and believes it may have been triggered by her taking anti-depressants.

She said: "I've found studies that say that taking anti-depressants and then stopping has an effect on the sexual organs. That is the only thing that explains what happens to me.

"But I've heard of other girls who have the same problem and it just appears out of the blue. I've spoken to my doctor about it but she wasn't a great deal of help but that's mainly because there's very little known about it and no one yet knows how to cure it."

Thanks to her understanding friends and colleagues, Sarah feels like she can now live with PSAS.

She said: "I'm lucky because people around me are very kind and appreciate that sometimes this is a problem for me and it can be embarrassing.

"I need to concentrate on something sad or worrying when I talk to people and I don't want to get carried away."

During our 40-minute interview, Sarah told us she had five orgasms.

Years of dealing with the problem means that sometimes she can hide it quite well.

Her voice goes high pitched and she will lose her train of thought and have to stop talking completely for a few seconds. She says disguises this by coughing when she is in awkward situations.

"But it's also nice to have so much excitement every day! It's strange because it came from nowhere and I guess it could go away just as quickly, so I'm making the most of it while it lasts!"

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