NEWS: Good sexual intercourse lasts minutes, not hours, therapists say

Great article. Written by a Penn State student. Great study, because people are getting faster and faster. Just look at the Internet, my God! I will agree that 3-13 minutes can be satisfying, since both partners can feel good knowing that they'll get up nice and early. Or that they'll be done in time for their lunch break to be over! However, I believe a couple should still take some time out their busy schedules at least once a month to truly experience eachother reach the depths of eachother's sensuality. And we know that just can't be done in 13 minutes, nevermind 3.

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Good sexual intercourse lasts minutes, not hours, therapists say

Satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts from 3 to 13 minutes, contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity, according to a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists.

Penn State Erie researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani conducted a survey of 50 full members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which include psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses who have collectively seen thousands of patients over several decades.

Thirty-four, or 68 percent, of the group responded and rated a range of time amounts for sexual intercourse, from penetration of the vagina by the penis until ejaculation, that they considered adequate, desirable, too short and too long.

The average therapists’ responses defined the ranges of intercourse activity times: "adequate," from 3-7 minutes; "desirable," from 7-13 minutes; "too short" from 1-2 minutes; and "too long" from 10-30 minutes.

"A man’s or woman’s interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner’s relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s messages, formal and informal," the researchers said. “"Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse. "

Past research has found that a large percentage of men and women, who responded, wanted sex to last 30 minutes or longer.

"This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction," said lead author Eric Corty, associate professor of psychology. "With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data about acceptable sexual intercourse, thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions."

Corty and Guardiani, then-undergraduate student and now a University graduate, are publishing their findings in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, but the article is currently available online.

The survey’s research also has implications for treatment of people with existing sexual problems.

"If a patient is concerned about how long intercourse should last, these data can help shift the patient away from a concern about physical disorders and to be initially treated with counseling, instead of medicine," Corty noted.

Contact: Vicki Fong
vfong@psu.edu
814-865-9481
Penn State

Spring belongs to the birds and the bees!

I am soooo ready to shed my winter wear! So I have to ask, what are you doing to getting ready for spring? I say get a jump on your skin care. A light spritz of BODY DEW MIST after your shower will bring a glow to your skin. Some BODY SHIMMER will deliver summer sun kissed legs. COOCHY AFTER SHAVE MIST will keep your skin protected post-blade or wax. And a little dry SILKY BODY MIST will make your skin irresistible to the one you love! Now is the time to get a jump on your skin care rituals. If you are interested in exploring more of my self-care products, give me a call!

To see and buy these products online, go to my shopping website!

A shining example of true dedication to your business!!

I was talking to one of my first level girls today, Nichole, about helping our team and always being there whenever they need us. Even if it's 1am in the morning! She was telling me how accessible she is, with a home phone number, a fax number, cell number, email, Yahoo Messenger, etc. This girl was willing to answer her phone at 1 in the morning for a rep of hers who was at a party and needed help. In the middle of baby-making at that!!! "Now THAT'S Dedication", she says. LOL!!!

I myself am guilty of this last week...I was having a pleasant 'nooner' with my man and brrrriiiinnnngggg... Sure enough my recruit needed me! And I answered it. Because I need her!! Residual income is nothing to fool around with, even when you're fooling around! ;)

NEWS: Hotel to offer sex toy minibar

Hotel to offer sex toy minibar

From correspondents in London

March 18, 2008 06:07am

A NEW boutique hotel at a seaside resort in northwest England will offer guests a sex toy minibar when it opens later this year, its owner said.

The Vincent Hotel, in Southport, near Liverpool, will have "intimate seduction kits" in each of its 60 rooms from May, containing lubricating gel, massage oil, a vibrating ring and two condoms.

The kit will be in a sealed box alongside more traditional minibar items like nuts, chocolate and alcohol.

Guests can request an extra special kit containing a whip, mask and bondage tape.

"As well as giving guests a design conscious venue to stay, we wanted to give them a decadent, inspiring and seductive environment to enjoy," hotel owner Paul Adams said today.

"We want to provide our residents with a distinct and highly individual experience in their own private, opulent space."

Southport is best-known for its Victorian-era promenade, the oldest surviving iron pier in Britain and the Royal Birkdale golf club, where the Open Championship will be held in July.

source: http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,23394333-5001028,00.html

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Now that's what I'm talking about! Hard Rock Cafe hotels in the U.S. should jump the band wagon! Get it? HARD ROCK Cafe? ;)

Ducky Doolittle - Something to shout about!!!

I must give props where props are DUE!!! Ducky Doolittle, our resident sex adviser and educator, has been such a warm and helpful resource for me. I'm sure for many IBA's as well. We are so fortunate to have her all to ourself. heehe. She regularly posts on our message board, she does Sex Ed chats and gives out 1-on-1 coaching calls as gifts/prizes!!

Check out her blog HERE! She does videos about certain products/issues and asks her readers intriguing questions. And I can't wait to see her again, either at a local NYC meeting or at Las Vegas convention this summer!

Thank you Ducky for everything you do and have done for us!!!

If you haven't checked out her book, Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered, you BETTER! She tells it like it is and gets you motivated to try new and fun things. Have a question of a sexual nature? You'll find the answer in her book.

You can buy the book at my shopping website.

Weight Loss - 2 weeks and counting!!!

So I started a diet/exercise regime 2 weeks ago. I haven't gone this long since a few months after my 3 year old was born. At that time I did the "eat little and small portions" diet, which in the end wasn't good because I wasn't eating enough calories and ended up gaining it back. I had also tried, last May, the MasterCleanse aka "The lemonade diet". 15 days of a diet that consisted of a Salt Water Flush, a homemade lemonade recipe and a laxative tea. Sounds fun, right? When I look back, it was great. The first few days were tough. No coffee and of course, no food!
I had lost 14 lbs and best of all, got rid of many issues I was having like my vertigo (dizziness). I was supposed to end it with a new lifestyle of wholesome foods, but I cheated left and right and gained the weight back, then some.

SOOOOO...here I am 14 days into a low-carb diet. So far so good! I'm really excited!! I have a bunch of 'milestones' this year to look forward to. My big 3-0 in June, For Your Pleasure convention in July (I WILL be wearing a sexy dress on awards night!), The FYP trip I earned to Italy in October and then New Years!! I have 55 lbs to lose. I'm down 6...woohoo! LOL I also signed up for Curves, which I've done before and absolutely LOVE because it's so quick. After 2 workouts so far...I can feel more muscle and my body is becoming stronger. I can't wait to go back tomorrow!! I'll be updating my progress... wish me luck!

Zenedge Energy Drink - this one is a keeper!

If you didn't know...I am a HUGE energy drink fan. I love using energy drinks to lose weight. Or to get pumped up before a party. I just plain like the taste of them. Zenedge is different from other one's I've tried. It's not too carbonated and doesn't have a bad aftertaste. After a while I actually felt the "zen" part of zenedge. I've tried it with Vodka too and is much better than Red Bull...it's smoother. See it your local store has it and give it a try!

David and Victoria Beckham's HOT sex life!

Becks' sex toy spree
13/03/2008 16:01 - (SA)

Los Angeles - David and Victoria Beckham stocked up on X-rated items from a sex shop at the weekend.

The couple visited Hollywood's notorious Pleasure Chest adult store where they purchased massage oil, personal lubricant, a Cyberskin vibrator, a leather braided cane and a padded black collar and restraint.

A source is quoted by Britain's The Sun newspaper as saying: "They were walking round the store holding hands and David was carrying a small shopping basket.

"Victoria was very vocal, cracking jokes constantly. They seemed to know exactly what they wanted and after asking an assistant where various items were kept, they grabbed what they came for."

The bedroom isn't the only place the couple are experimenting.

David, 32, has asked his close friend, renowned chef Gordon Ramsay, for tips on how to impress his wife in the kitchen.

The Kitchen Nightmares star said: "David absolutely loves his food and Victoria is a real foodie too.

"David has mentioned a few times he would love to be able to cook properly. I think he could be very good and I wouldn't hesitate to give him a helping hand in the kitchen."

Bang Showbiz.com

NEWS: Study finds 1 in 4 US teens has a STD

This is sooo disturbing. Mothers, PLEASE educate your kids...schools don't do it!! It's up to you to teach your daughter's that their bodies are temples!!

Read the horrible article below! It's such a shame!! Teach your children for F's sake!!

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Study finds 1 in 4 US teens has a STD

By LINDSEY TANNER, AP Medical Writer March 11, 2008

CHICAGO - At least one in four teenage American girls has a sexually transmitted disease, suggests a first-of-its-kind federal study that startled some adolescent-health experts.

Some doctors said the numbers might be a reflection of both abstinence-only sex education and teens' own sense of invulnerabilty. Because some sexually transmitted infections can cause infertility and cancer, U.S. health officials called for better screening, vaccination and prevention.

Only about half of the girls in the study acknowledged having sex. Some teens define sex as only intercourse, yet other types of intimate behavior including oral sex can spread some diseases.

Among those who admitted having sex, the rate was even more disturbing — 40 percent had an STD.

"This is pretty shocking," said Dr. Elizabeth Alderman, an adolescent medicine specialist at Montefiore Medical Center's Children's Hospital in New York.

"To talk about abstinence is not a bad thing," but teen girls — and boys too — need to be informed about how to protect themselves if they do have sex, Alderman said.

The overall STD rate among the 838 girls in the study was 26 percent, which translates to more than 3 million girls nationwide, researchers with the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found. They released the results Tuesday at an STD prevention conference in Chicago.

"Those numbers are certainly alarming," said sex education expert Nora Gelperin, who works with a teen-written Web site called sexetc.org. She said they reflect "the sad state of sex education in our country."

"Sexuality is still a very taboo subject in our society," she said. "Teens tell us that they can't make decisions in the dark and that adults aren't properly preparing them to make responsible decisions."

Cecile Richards, president of Planned Parenthood Federation of America, said the study shows that "the national policy of promoting abstinence-only programs is a $1.5 billion failure, and teenage girls are paying the real price."

Similar claims were made last year when the government announced the teen birth rate rose between 2005 and 2006, the first increase in 15 years.

The new study by CDC researcher Dr. Sara Forhan relied on slightly older data. It is an analysis of nationally representative records on girls ages 14 to 19 who participated in a 2003-04 government health survey.

The teens were tested for four infections: human papillomavirus, or HPV, which can cause cervical cancer and affected 18 percent of girls studied; chlamydia, which affected 4 percent; trichomoniasis, 2.5 percent; and genital herpes, 2 percent.

Dr. John Douglas, director of the CDC's division of STD prevention, said the results are the first to examine the combined national prevalence of common sexually transmitted diseases among adolescent girls. He said the data, now a few years old, likely reflect current prevalence rates.

Disease rates were significantly higher among black girls — nearly half had at least one STD, versus 20 percent among both whites and Mexican-Americans.

HPV, the cancer-causing virus, can also cause genital warts but often has no symptoms. A vaccine targeting several HPV strains recently became available, but Douglas said it probably hasn't yet had much impact on HPV prevalence rates in teen girls.

The CDC recommends the three-dose HPV vaccine for girls ages 11-12 and catch-up shots for ages 13-26.

Chlamydia, which often has no symptoms but can lead to infertility, can be treated with antibiotics. The CDC recommends annual chlamydia screening for all sexually active women under age 25. Trichomoniasis, also treatable with antibiotics, can cause abnormal discharge and painful urination. Genital herpes can cause blisters but often has no symptoms. It's not curable but medicine can help.

The CDC's Dr. Kevin Fenton said given the dangers of some STDs, "screening, vaccination and other prevention strategies for sexually active women are among our highest public health priorities."

Douglas said screening tests are underused in part because many teens don't think they're at risk, but also, some doctors mistakenly think: "Sexually transmitted diseases don't happen to the kinds of patients I see."

Teens need to hear the dual message that STDs can be prevented by abstinence and condoms, said Dr. Ellen Kruger, an obstetrician-gynecologist at Ochsner Medical Center in New Orleans.

"You've got to hammer at them," with appropriate information at each stage of teen development to make sure it sinks in, she said.

She said there are a lot of myths out there, too — many sexually active teens think the withdrawal method will protect them, or that douching with Coca-Cola will kill STD germs.

Dr. Margaret Blythe, an adolescent medicine specialist at Indiana University School of Medicine, said some doctors hesitate to discuss STDs with teen patients or offer screening because of confidentiality concerns, knowing parents would have to be told of the results.

Blythe, who heads an American Academy of Pediatrics committee on adolescence, noted that the academy supports confidential teen screening.

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On the Net:

CDC: http://www.cdc.gov

American Academy of Pediatrics: http://www.aap.org

Name That Toy

Let's hear some good names for these, ummmm, things?

Slacking...Sick...Sorry...

LOL! Look at that. I think my title says it all. Between going through a new eating lifestyle, a financial makeover, being sick with something or other that my kids gave me...I've been slacking on the blog and I AM sorry!!

I would love to know what you'd like to see more of on this blog though, so if anyone has any blog favorites for this blog, let me know! I might be doing another "Name that Toy"...stay tuned...

Toothpick Holder Looks a Little Odd!

This is a vintage toothpick holder. I suppose it was made before cyberskin and today's technologies. Reminds me of our "Lil Love Plug"!

Best question I was asked at a party...in a long time! LOL

"Are there carbs in any of these edible products?"

She made the night! :)